Lately I have been talking, then thinking...and this has gotten me into a lot of trouble. And, to make matters worse, I have been doing it a lot! Especially with my husband. Why don't I just slow down, and be reflective before I speak? Why can't I be patient like Mary, who "pondered in her heart"? Instead, I am not being a holy woman - rather, I am being impatient. I'm wanting to get my words out before they leave my head. This isn't being a good example to my husband or to others. This is why I really need to head the words of James:
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does.
If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless."